So I haven’t posted in two weeks, but it is only because I don’t like to post when I don’t have content. I don’t want to be mass producing blog posts with no value, so I simply haven’t written, but that is no longer.
Today, I’ll give a brief update on what is going on in my life and give my advice on how to deal with rejection.
So, last Friday I went to the Pacific Northwest Ballet summer intensive audition. I really didn’t anticipate getting in, but was curious on what would happen. It was a good class, not my best, but I enjoyed and it was a relatively small group.
I unfortunately did not get in, but that was okay with me. I wasn’t expecting to get in and so it didn’t bruise me too badly. This “rejection” email wasn’t my first and most definitely won’t be my last coming back from an audition. It definitely isn’t fun to get that email that says “we are sorry to inform”, but it is apart of the dancer life. When deciding which topic I wanted to right about this I wondered if I really wanted to talk about rejection. It is a personal topic and affects different people in different ways. Even though it isn’t the easiest topic to broach I’m doing it in this post, in hopes it might help someone else.
First, accepting it for what it is. While I didn’t get into PNB and wasn’t even expecting to, it still stung to tell people who knew I went I didn’t get in. Even writing this post I almost feel a little embarrassed to say I didn’t make it. Accepting what happened is probably the hardest, but most crucial part of the rejection recovery process. Learning to acknowledge your rejection and not hide it from others will help you get over a rejection much faster.
Second, remember your “congratulations”. When someone says no that is the best time to remember the times someone said yes. Think of the times you got a yes after an audition, value that. If you have yet to get a yes be proud that you put yourself out there. Auditioning is a scary thing and the fact that you are willing to go get judged and put into a box of “what we want” or “what we don’t want” shows you are pretty awesome. Realize that all of the yeses and nos you get have real meaning.
Third, try try try again. Don’t let someone turning you down discourage you, go back next year and try again. Work even harder, don’t give up and let a bruised self-esteem stop you. I may not have made it into PNB this year, but I will definitely be auditioning again next year.
I hope this post helped you and I hope you apply it to stuff outside of dance. Take pride in your rejections that show you were brave enough to face the possibility of rejection. Rejoice in your acceptances that further prove how amazing you are.
See you again next week!